Saying "no" With Confidence And Conviction

The vast majority of adults including your parents faced those times when they

either had to stand up for what they believed was right or cave in to the pressure they were feeling. Odds are, as you continue to progress through your own teen years, youre going to find yourself on the hot seat, too. Have you given any thought to how youre going to react to being on the spot? Its difficult to say no to sex when youre really saying no to someone you truly care about. Its human nature to want to please those closest to us. We want to stay in Mom and Dads good graces when it comes to our grades, we dont want to disappoint the coach on the field Friday night and we dont want to do anything that would shatter our grandmothers image of us the list goes on and on, right?

Still, there are those times when standing firm means far more than fumbling on the football field. One of the biggest trials youre likely to face as a teen is standing your ground when it comes to sex. Its awkward, difficult and maybe even embarrassing when the subject comes up and youre not prepared to discuss it or maybe after youve discussed it for what seems like the fiftieth time. Its also a very important aspect of your life that will continue to affect you long after you walk the field to accept your high school diploma.

Have you considered a purity vow? This is a document between a teen and his or her parents that is designed to empower you and serve as a foundation for every time youre feeling pressure to participate in any kind of sexual activity that youre not prepared for. You can find a Purity Promise and a Dating Contract, at no cost, on TheQuietWitness.com website. These are powerful documents that will strengthen your resolve and serve as a reminder of the commitment youve made to God, your parents and more importantly, yourself. They can also go a long way in getting the message across to someone you care about whos ready to move forward with a sexual relationship. Its a commitment that leaves no room for doubt.

One of the questions that teens ask most is, How can I say no without sounding like a goody-two-shoes? Or, Ive said no so many times, and he (or she) still tries every weekend - how can I make him understand Im just not ready? These are tough questions, no doubt; but its important that you exert your worth. If you dont, no one else will. The best way to do this is to be prepared with your answers already formed. Its important to sound confident and definitive:

I am just not ready. The thought of an unplanned pregnancy, having to face my parents and having to worry about STDs is just not something I want to fill my mind with.

Another suggestion:

Im crazy about you I really am, but this is a deal breaker I dont want to have sex at this point in my life. I need for you to understand that.

A ready defense coupled with a Purity Promise or Dating Contract will make you feel as though you are in control of your own life and destiny. Theres also something very powerful in knowing youre doing the right thing. One good decision always leads to another. Deciding youre worth w8ing for is by far the strongest statement you can make to the world.

Original Content Written by TheQuietWitness.com

by: D McGill

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