The Best Practices For Winning Your Ex Back
The Best Practices For Winning Your Ex Back
Losing a loved one in a breakup can be a traumatizing ordeal. Many people experience an acute sense of loss accompanied by a feeling of loneliness. This can sometimes give way to depression. Each year, thousands of couples go their separate ways. But regardless of this, there are also many that get back together.
Getting back with your ex can be a tall order. For most people who have gone through a breakup, the sense of loss and violation of pride does not allow them to attempt this journey. Each party feels that the loss was caused by the other one and that it is the other party's call to initiate getting together again. Regardless of whose fault it was or who it is that is perceived to have caused the issue, maturity is needed in getting to the point of reuniting. Let us look at a few things you can do to make it easier to get back with your ex.
The very first step is to take a "time out". This is a period of time where you do not initiate any contact with your ex. This is extremely important for a number of reasons. The first reason is that it is essential for healing. In any breakup, there is emotional bruising involved and only time can reconstitute this pain. Many couples run out and attempt to add either relate again (with someone else) or try to get back together with their ex too soon. This is not recommended. A wounded heart is not capable of loving in an healthy way and there is a great potential to wound someone else. Time out is there recommended during the initial stages of the breakup.
Time out also allows one to think and reflect on the relationship. It allows time to wade through the muddle and look at the relationship and their ex-partner in perspective. Without this time it is important to do the necessary "soul search" that is required. During this time, one should weigh the pros and cons of the relationship and their partner. No doubt there were great times in the past and there could also have been bad times. This time allows you to sift through all the data of your past and present and see whether reuniting with your ex is something that you want to do.
After a reasonable time has passed, you can begin to think positively. It is recommended that you act as if your ex is not coming back. This allows you to plan your life more objectively and move on. Get a new hobby, go back to school or re-evaluate your career options. This way you do not appear to have stagnated. In many cases when one of the couples is idle, they are easy prey to negative thoughts or in many case instances will find themselves initiating a comeback prematurely. While getting back with your ex is not for the faint-hearted, it is definitely something that is very achievable.