The Secret of True Confidence

Copyright (c) 2010 Michael HarveyI want to talk to you about true confidence

, how to create authentic confidence. As you will see there is a difference between authentic confidence and the "fake it till you make it" type.It may sound strange to hear that there are more than there are more than one type of confidence. This is because some behaviors that may appear to be from a confident person are actually not confident at all.What is true confidence? Well, the secret of true confidence is a natural demeanor or aura that is generated from an individual. Its opposite-false confidence-can be witnessed in day to day life in the form of attention seeking behavior. What characterizes this behavior is it lacks true genuineness. It plays to the gallery. There are tell tale signs, like the sideways glance to see who's looking and the exaggerated body language, also the overly projected tone of voice.Knowing that these thoughts are there is an important first stage in overcoming attention-seeking behavior. They will be negative thoughts like: "I fear I'm not good enough, everyone here is better than me" or "I'm not attractive, nobody loves me"Confidence and of course your Self Esteem is something that everyone should have and the loss of it in a person can spell disaster. Just like anything that a person has to have they should work at building their self esteem. Self Esteem, or confidence is how a person perceives themselves and the secret of true confidence is challenging the thoughts that everyone is better than you. They are not. You can stop the whole process right there and then by challenging these beliefs with: "of course I'm good, I'm just as good as the next person" or "I'm attractive and loveable but I do need to be bolder and talk to people"If you feel undermined, insecure, ignored or unrewarded then be aware of your particular emotional triggers to attention seeking behavior. Go back to thoughts that generated the feeling or simply relax and take some time out to examine what is going on.So how do we rid ourselves of false confident behavior and replace it with true confidence? The answer is contained in the subtle way we live our lives. The way we conduct ourselves through our body language and our tone of voice has a massive impact on the way we are judged by others.So where should we begin? Move around as though you are confident-this goes for standing or sitting. You'll feel confident as a result. There is something else that every self confident person has and you can have it too. They have strong values, beliefs and faith. If you have strong values then, no matter what you do or if you make mistakes, people will admire the power and force within you to do what you have to do to achieve your goals.


The Secret of True Confidence

By: Michael Harvey

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