Why Are So Many People Living Together In Divorce
Why Are So Many People Living Together In Divorce
When a couple decides to divorce there is usually a lot to
consider.
The family home they are living in may have a mortgage so
they will probably want to sell it. Other assets like cars
and furniture may have been bought from loaned money so they
will be looking at splitting the debt evenly. Many couples
have credit cards so this will be another issue to contend
with.
It paints a pretty grim picture when you look at it because
most couples seeking a divorce were once happy together and
confident about their marriage. They probably did not ever
imagine that one-day they would be getting a divorce.
The emotional turmoil that comes with a break up like this
would be only a part of the process. A couple will try to
work through the animosity or hurt in order to get the house
sold, settle the debt and make plans for their children. The
problems they will likely face are as follows.
1. Houses are not selling well due to the recession and the
value of them has dropped considerably. Not great news for a
couple that bought in more prosperous times. Many couples are
walking away from their mortgages in America because they
cannot afford to pay. Getting a divorce in these hard
economic times can for some be financial suicide.
2. They may have huge debt, which is manageable while they
are together but impossible apart. Also neither husband or
wife will want to destroy their credit ratings, as this will
make their lending power non-existent in the future. Banks
have become extremely conservative in their lending since
the advent of the recession.
3. If they have children they may not be able to afford to
pay for two separate homes and the standard of the new
residence may not be conducive to raising children in. The
statistics show that children from homes where the parents
have divorced often develop physical health and
psychological problems.
It is hard enough for many happily married couples to cope
in these lean times so the dilemma of a husband and wife
divorcing must be very stressful.
There is another way out of this headache and that is for a
divorcing couple to stay living together until they can sell
their home and settle things amicably. This will only work if
each person can cope with the fact that the marriage is over
and the common goal is to leave no loose ends.
Often one of the partners can be in denial about the
marriage ending and can harbor a secret longing for
reconciliation. If the husband or wife who has initiated the
breakup is adamant there is no chance of this happening. Then
the partner with the hope will have to rethink the entire
situation as it may prove to be hurtful. On the other hand
some marriages have been saved because of one partners
belief that it could work.
This new process will be a challenge but it is important to
remember that the person you are going to be living with
during or after a divorce was once someone you loved very
much. Relationships we have in our lives can last for a week
or 10 years. If we were all able to see that each one of them
served a purpose in our growth as a human being the prospect
of staying together while working through a divorce would
not seem that bad. It is a question of being that better
person who can rise above the feelings of hurt and betrayal
and work together for the good of all.
Living together in divorce is quietly going in the towns and
cities of our world and increasing as the times we are living
in dictate. It is interesting that 50% of married couples end
up in divorce so the fact that many of them are sticking
together to avoid potential disaster is remarkable.
Human beings in the worst of times such as the world wars
have shown they can put all negative feelings toward others
aside in a supreme effort to form a united front.
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