One of the biggest blocks to emotional intelligence and effective communication is emotional reactivity. You know how it is, you have all the best of intentions to have a productive communication with somebody and they say the wrong thing the thing that pushes your hot button. Often it can be a criticism, or a negative reaction to your great idea. In any event, defensiveness arises and communication becomes regrettable. This shuts down any...more
Emotional intelligence starts with intention. When you start a difficult conversation with someone else, what is your intention? You will be emotionally intelligent when you pause to answer that question before you proceed with the conversation. For example, lets say Bob has not followed up on his promise to do a task for you. You realize that time is now short and you need this task done immediately. What is your intention? Get the task...more
There is a big difference between having an emotion and it having you. You can have a feeling or you can be caught up in it. The trick is to have an awareness of the feeling. If we lack self-awareness, we are more susceptible to being caught up in a feeling. Then it runs us instead of us having it.For example, you can be angry and handle it. Or you can be angry and get caught up in it so that you lose your good judgment and say things you regret later. We say, He lost his head. Really, he never had it. He never had the self-awareness that he was getting angry so it escalated to where it got out of control. We have all had the experience where someone, lets say Bob, is speaking angrily. Someone replies, Why are you so angry? Bob raises his voice and asserts, Who me, angry? NO WAY! I am just explaining that People roll their eyes. When someone lacks self-awareness, they are often the last one to see that they have become caught up in an emotion. Being caught up in emotions wastes our time and energy and may get us into trouble. Angry outbursts can spoil relationships. It is a major way that leaders get derailed in their careers. In my public Virtual Workshop,...more
Physical TortureRingworm that is associated by an itch is one of the devastating skin diseases for it does not choose a good place to spread its harmful infection in the wholeness of the body. It might grow in sensitive areas that have the higher risk on the health of the person. These certain body parts that are embarrassing to scratch are the...more
There should be no doubt that you can now see that creating a connection with your husband is important to your success in getting him back. If you ever hope to get your husband to come home creating a connection with him is necessary. If you do find yourself at a loss or having issues recreating a connection with your husband there are ways to...more
Your Emotional State is the Key! By: Keith Bird About the Author Lives in London with his wife.Writes on the Mind,Body and Spirit,Dating and Relationships.Founder of two Dating Websites- http://DatingFor50Plus.com and...more
People React Emotionally and Physically By: Dr Izharul Hasan About the Author drizharnium@gmail.com, Bangalore IndiaHi Friends, I am Izhar, love all of you, and I'd like to write about my interest, and here i am sharing...more
I have published a book chapter called, Emotional Intelligence for Resilience: How to Know What you Really Want and Stay Focused on it, in the Amazon best seller book, Upping the Down Side. My chapter focuses on having clarity of intention that...more
Emotional intelligence has many faces. Sometimes a metaphor captures as aspect of emotional intelligence in a way we can remember. Here is my metaphor of the resilient tree.I was hiking along a river and noticed several large trees that had no...more
My book chapter, Emotional Intelligence for Resilience, published in the Amazon best-seller book on resilience, Upping the Down Side, is the source of this Tip. Know what you really want. Having clarity of intention results in more energy,...more
We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give. - Winston Churchill. What are you giving? Are you interested in new ways to give? Here are some possibilities.Give to your favorite non-profit. Can you serve food at a homeless...more