Confidence and Happiness: How To Be An Arrogant Jerk
Confidence and Happiness: How To Be An Arrogant Jerk
"Larry, you are an an Arrogant Jerk."
I've been hearing more of that lately. Because I chose to step out of the role I occupied much of my life...a "nice guy."
If you've read my other stuff, especially "Nice Guys Finish Last" you know nice usually doesn't cut it. Nice is for people who REALLY want to keep the status quo. It's also for people whose self esteem is tied up in needing to be liked by others.
I feel better being liked by others. It's usually more fun, certainly more convenient. But sometimes I get a real thrill from alienating those whose energy is in opposition to mine.
I'll be honest, over the last three or four years I've begun acquiring a list of people who genuinely don't like me. The number is growing. Strange for a guy who placed such a high value on being liked for so long.
So you don't the wrong idea I better say this up front. I'm a great person. Kind, generous, compassionate, full of life affirming energy, and very, very funny. Hey, I've got references!
But if you ask a certain segment of the population about me, this is what you'll hear...
"He's arrogant."
"He's impatient."
He thinks he's smarter and better than the rest of us."
"He used to be so easy to be around. Now he's kind of a jerk, to tell you the truth."
Well that is the truth of the people who say these comments. It's their truth. And here's mine, which by the way really IS the truth...
As I got stronger, more confident, more self loving and more self respecting, I stepped out of the roles I occupied for most of my life. I started bringing more and more good stuff into my experience. I made more money. I attracted a smarter and stronger group of people...friends, mentors, clients, you name it.
More love, more joy, more peace came in. And yes, I celebrated the things I manifested. Because the way I manifested these things in the first place was to set aside attitudes and behaviors that kept me financially and spiritually poor. And I picked up attitudes, behaviors and SKILLS that got me rich, in every sense of the word. And I walked my talk. I stepped way outside my comfort zone, walking hand in hand with those who had what I wanted.
And people noticed. The ones who loved me unconditionally or at least wanted what was best for me cheered me on. The ones who were drowning in their own insecurity and misery didn't like it one bit.
I held up a mirror to their own lack consciousness. And without saying it, they were pissed off that I broke out. They took it as an indictment of their own choices. That was never my intention. I judge no one. If you're doing or not doing something, it's because you're supposed to in that given moment.
But my example inspired some and alienated others.
I gave it all the thought it deserved...about six seconds worth. Then I moved on.
I began hanging out with other "arrogant jerks." Turns out they were bright, beautiful, effective, committed, responsible, HAPPY souls. I learned from them. They learned from me. And I started attracting people who weren't happy, weren't prosperous, weren't wealthy...but wanted to be.
And some of them became happier, more prosperous and richer. For some the journey was just too far. They shut down. They flipped back into their little cocoons of self pity. Some of them had a hard time facing their failure to move forward.
And some of them called me an arrogant jerk.
What I am is absolutely, completely, 100% irrelevant.
The only important question...what are YOU?
I'll answer that right now. You are a magnificent, brilliant beautiful child of God. We all are. You are someone who has the key to everything you can ever ask for. The only differences between what you WANT and what you HAVE are new ideas, new attitudes, new habits, new skills and a little bit of time and practice to make them your own.
Take a look at some of the arrogant jerks in your life. Are they people who don't have the good stuff and need to feel better by making others feel worse? Of course those people are out there. Are they people who have created material possessions but have forgotten to include happiness and graciousness in their experience?
Don't hate them. Love them. They need love more than most of us. Are they people who don't engage in gossip, meanness, silliness? Do they seem snobby and stand-offish?
Could it be they're just operating in a different and happier space than you are? Could it be they don't have room for anger and jealousy? So they tune out anything that isn't in alignment with their energy?
Am I one of those arrogant jerks who is really a beautiful soul? You bet I am! And I teach others how to be the same...at least the ones who are ready.
It's liberating!
If you're one of those same types, I'm here! If you'd like to be one, come hang out with me! Bring your best to the table! Come along for the ride if you like!
Your Unapologetically Arrogant, Wonderful Friend
Larry
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