Getting Your Ex Back - Can You Guarantee a Successful Reconciliation?
Getting Your Ex Back - Can You Guarantee a Successful Reconciliation
?Are you trying to get your ex back? Getting your ex back is absolutely possible but the most people still fail in their attempt to accomplish it. Those who have tried hard to get back their exes and have so far failed, know it too well that there is no magic formula for a patch up leave alone getting back someone who has deserted the relationship. In fact there are no proven 'tricks' or 'hidden secrets' to change anyone's mind about a situation. Even with the strongest influences, people go back to their own decisions, though temporarily they may display some changes in their viewpoints.
While spending most of your waking hours in devising ways to get back your ex, has it ever occurred to you that even if the ex comes back, can you guarantee a successful reconciliation? The truth of the matter is that even when your get back your ex, the process of reconciliation is not only time consuming but mostly end in further disasters. If there was ever a secret behind getting your ex back, it is 'getting back yourself' before you try to get your ex back.
If you study some people who have succeeded in reconciliation you would notice some common traits. They are independent, mentally strong, have a great sense of self-esteem and proud of being themselves. These are the people who make the process of reconciliation smarter, quicker and more effective. They are in complete control of themselves; show no signs of remorse or repentance and definitely not helplessness.
Why is the idea of 'reconciliation' coming under a scanner? It is simply because most people even when they are reconciled with their exes, become more disillusioned and a second break up becomes imminent. There are reasons for such failed reconciliations:
Even when the ex is back, remember he/she could have changed for the better or worse. He/she could have developed new hobbies, newer priorities, new friends and new likes and dislikes. This comes as a shock to most people as they are looking for the same person before he/she broke up.
Reconciliation becomes tougher when only one of you is trying to make amends or adjust to the new environment. It is a two-way process that helps in a win-win situation. If the effort is one way, there can never be any successful reconciliation.
Reconciliation also gets negatively affected if one of you constantly harps on the past - however painful it may have been. No body wants to remember bad times leave alone being blamed for it all over again. Sooner or later either partner finds no reason to prolong this relationship any more. Another break up happens.
If getting back your ex was tough and time consuming, remember the process of reconciliation is more challenging and lengthy. It could take months and even years to repair the damage that has been done. During this interim period, both of you have to put in immense effort to correct all the wrongs and set things right. Yes it could also mean making greater sacrifices than you have done ever before.
Keeping all the points mentioned above, think twice before you start making attempts to get your ex back. Remember getting them could be easy - keeping them is the most difficult part.