Motivational Speeches Don't Gloss Over Reality
Good judgment comes from experience
Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment."
-- Jim Horning
All self development aside, when everything goes wrong the last thing I feel like doing is trying to be positive.
"Look on the bright side" others will say. Because it's illegal to kill them I have to consider this fluffy inspiration and advice. Try it and assume it will be a success.
I am a motivational speaker, i have to believe in this Pollyanna stuff. One of my favorite motivational speeches is a spoof on all this rah rah inspiration. We can't just push the conflict under the carpet and pretend it's not there.
Yet when I look back at any tough times I have had, this is where I have learned the most. It had to get bad to make me uncomfortable enough to have to want the leadership and change and in the end the change was for the better.
'A satisfied need ceases to motivate,' said Maslow.
When things go wrong it causes breakdown that is difficult but creates equilibrium.
If things we wanted were easy to get we probably wouldn't even want them anymore. We have to go through challenge to appreciate where we have come.
The reason we have conflict is because we care. If you didn't care we wouldn't get upset in the first place. Leadership and change happens when you have the courage to face reality.
You have to go through the challenges of life to get to wisdom, not until you experience something can you really appreciate it.
A motivational speaker who suggests that life is to be perfect all the time, despite reality is wrong.
Sink down lower than you've ever sank
If you sink down lower than ever before, when you hit the bottom there is nowhere else to go but up. While you are building back up you are building character through success. When you go through really touch emotional times, often it can only get better from here. If things go wrong again you now know that you can handle it, you've done it before and were a success so you can do it again. Life is about change. Like it or not change happens usually for the better. It delights you with the motivation to face new challenges and life goals.
As a motivational speaker, in my motivational speeches i give these three ideas about change:
Change Builds:
Character. Challenge has the capacity to teach people about their limitations. When things go wrong or mistakes are made it builds humility.
Wisdom. A new level of sensitivity and relating to others comes from surviving life challenges.
Gratitude. When we have it all we tend to take it for granted. When it is taken away we have new gratitude for what we had. When you fail to appreciate life you lose your Joy.
By confronting problems you can find healthier solutions. In the midst of chaos, loss and frustration you may be learning to:
* Balance toughness with sensitivity
* Go deep inside and embrace fear for real self development
* Have Mental and Emotional toughness
* Persevere towards success
* Be on purpose when your off balance
* Be Hard on problems and Soft on people
* Manage perceived threats
* Deepen social support
* Believe, have hope and inspiration
* Don't see change as interruption but as opportunity for leadership and self development to steer your life.
It is easy to disengage and detach from things when things aren't the way you want. It helps avoid struggle. Distancing yourself from conflict, leadership and change only makes it worse, it prolongs the change and makes you escape responsibility. Passivity leads to becoming a victim and soon complaining takes over.
Develop compassion for yourself given the circumstances, understand there will be some good in this bad.
by: Jody Urquhart
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