Relationships- Welcoming The Past Experience & Learning From It

You to have to prepare yourself to be the kind of person that will attract the relationship you have been dreaming

. If you are looking for someone to be loyal, to be by your side no matter what, then you should ask yourself some difficult question of whether or not you have the same traits and characteristics that you also seek. If there is something in your character that caused you to be unfair, then do some introspection to find out what you need to heal in order to become the person you really want to be.

Relations only act as a mirror, showing us those things about ourselves we do not want to see. When we welcome the information and try to learn from this and doing it, it brings us more in the direction of becoming who we want to be.

It also helps during this time alone to make an inventory of the traits, qualities and characteristics we want in our "perfect mate." It's much more likely that we will attract the person we want when we became crystal clear about the exact type that we are looking for. My list includes having someone to love me for who I am, not in spite of what I am. I wanted a partner with loyalty, integrity, honesty, good looks, intelligence, humor, romance and the availability (not involved with another person). I wanted a man who was strong but gentle, delicate and decisive, but not vain. I wanted someone with whom I can share common interests and someone who will not feel the need to control or compete with me. You know what? After it became clear what I was looking for, the "perfect" person came to me in my life.

Another thing I find very useful during the "I am over stage" is to remember that you are perfect just as you are. You are fully complete without a significant other to share your life. Very often, in the course of this stage, we are focusing on our lack, rather than our abundance. We waste time given to us to feel sorry for ourselves instead of putting the gift of time to use for the betterment of humanity in our own unique way.

In conclusion, I say, do not be so anxious to go to the next relationship. Take time to analyze the lesson from your previous relationship (s). Use the time alone to look introspectively to assess whether or not you are the person who needs to allow the person to enter in your life. And finally, do not focus on the lack of relationship, but rather on what you can do to help others during this time.

Used wisely, your time alone can really make a huge difference in the way that the experience of your next relationship. Do not allow yourself to change. Maximize and leverage the time that has occurred between the relationships. It is a true gift.

by: Michael SeoVida Francis

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