What Are The Causes of Borderline Personality Splitting?
Are you in a relationship where one of you is having BPD and looking to avoid a Borderline Personality Splitting?
BPD marriages have a high proportion of divorce due to the numerous challenges as well as problems this mental disorder brings in relationship or marriage.
Very likely the most important problem a borderline personality sufferer has in any relationship is the dread of abandonment, which in many cases also consists of a phobia of scourge, deprecation, or critique from significant other people.
These fears are coming from childhood or adolescence when the sufferer faced painful and depreciative encounters with his/her significant individuals. During childhood those significant others were embodied by his/her father and mother or caregivers, whereas throughout adolescence it can also contain friends and girl/boyfriends.
The early painful life encounters weren't forgotten, but "stored" in the unconscious waiting for an answer. Furthermore they grow into relationship models from the BPD sufferer view point which set up the unconscious anticipations in subsequent relationships and interactions with other significant individuals, hence the dread of being left alone.
How?
Bearing in mind that the early experiences (i.e. when a human doesn't posses the needed life experience and mental methods to surmount aversive interactions) with significant persons were offensive, belittling, repudiating, or insensitive, one will unconsciously deduce that all the future relationships and interactions with significant ones will be the same.
Resulting the almost ongiong fear of abandonment.
So what can you do to fend off a borderline personality splitting?
If you are the one who suffers from BPD, one easy to use strategy to ease this abandonment angst is to determine down-to-earth and rational attributes in your spouse/partner which are limpidly indicating that he or she is not thinking to depart from you, or to label, scourge, or critique you as a whole.
Moreover if your spouse or partner is behaving this way on good grounds, ask him or her to tell it in a more bland way with thoughtfulness to your past traumas.
In addition, rather jumping into conclusions that can easily drive you to rage episodes and impulsive behaviors, make yourself a priority out of halting for a second, taking three deep breaths, and to only than analyze the actual message of your spouse/partner.
And ask him/her to read through my free e-book
"Surviving The Hellhole" where he/she will come across very important facts about borderline personality splitting and free tips and advice to improve your relationship.
Moving on, if your spouse or partner is the one who has borderline personality, you will need to deal with his or her phobia of abandonment in order to commence to change things for the better between the two of you.
My free e-book deals with your situation as well. It is in downloadable format so you can be reading it in a matter of seconds:
Surviving The Hellhole .
What Are The Causes of Borderline Personality Splitting?
By: Michael Weisz
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