In my post How to Strengthen Willpower Through Practice back in May, I mentioned how useful I'd been finding a practice I call "decision logging" in terms of building willpower, and I promised to give proper attention to the subject in the future. Here, after some delay, is that post.Decision logging ("d-logging") is a practice we can use to become more aware of what decisions come up for us during a normal day, how we are making those decisions,...more
A friend posed this question:"What do you do when you have two conflicting things to get done? For example, for me it's writing vs. studying. Both take the same amount of focus, time and activity level. One is more pleasurable, and one is more necessary."So when I have a block of time in which I could EITHER write or study .I end up surfing the web for hours. In that web-surfing loop where you don't really look at anything, just go to the...more
In a recent comment to my post Flow: What It Feels Like to Be Perfectly Motivated, Kaizan said, "I think the concept of flow as Csikszentmihalyi describes it is fantastic, but I didn't really follow him as to how I was meant to apply it to my life." It's a good point: psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi has researched and depicted flow beautifully, but actually finding flow takes some work. Here, based on what I know about flow so far and on my own flow experiences, is a starter "how to" list for getting into flow.First, not every activity should be done in flow. Flow requires being able to concentrate on one particular task or related group of tasks for a substantial period of time without having to switch gears. This can happen alone or with other people, but if anyone or anything is going to need to pull your attention away from the task-ringing phones, kids needing help with homework, pets needing to be let out-it will tend to disrupt flow. That doesn't mean a person can't have a phone, kids, or pets, just that whenever there are potential distractions, getting into flow means making sure as well as you can that distractions are taken care of: the kids have someone else to go...more
You have some great ideas. You toss them around in your mind. You tell friends about them. They go nowhere. Why? They go nowhere because of what your friends said or because you have the misconception that only a select few are able to unleash a steady flow of creative genius. And, you, of course, couldn't be one of that select group. That is not...more
"Sue, let me see if I understand this. You manage 25 company branches. Every week you give a talk at each branch. Yet you're scared to death of the mere idea of speaking to a group. How on earth do you do it?""I take a Valium, Allan," she admitted, just as casually as if any of her friends might say, "I drink two cups of coffee every morning."I...more
Last year, a friend of mine had a rare privilege of visiting India to a place called the Oneness University. They were invited to stay in silence and he was there for 21 days. The easiest thing he could say about that whole experience is that it took him out of his mind. Every day, they were being showered with an energy transfer called as Deeksha (but it is now known as the Oneness Blessing.) He began to let himself experience things instead of analyzing them; he find that practice simpler and easier than ever before. That's a big deal for himup to this day, he discovered that living in a state of Oneness is definitely a gift of grace. The very first step is oneness with yourself, then with each other, and then with the animals and plants and the life that surrounds us and ultimately with all that is, or God Himself. My friend actually invites us to know and research the Oneness Movement and to see and experience for ourselves this phenomenon. Or, at the very least, begin to take note where you live in separationthe not me and the me, the yours and mine syndrome. We go through the several stages of spiritual growth as we move through our midlife. Oftentimes, we learn to move...more
Art Conservation always has the eyes to the future. There are numerous different variations of art conservation. Though there are quite a number of numerous distinct varieties of artwork maintenance, the most common theme of them all is preservation....more
In the last decade, individuals are finding ways and discovering the advantages of life coaching. In life, there is nothing better than to have someone always remind you that you could do whatever you set your heart and mind toward and that is...more
If you're not currently living your life in abundance, then you should start doing something about it right now. Well actually, the supply of abundance all around us is more than enough, so all you have to do is ask. Being abundant is a state which...more
The phenomenon called road rage is defined as a very violent way of driving. Ever since the first (and fast) cars have begun to fill the roads there have been individuals who drive in an extremely aggressive manner. When talking about road rage,...more
Several individuals have formulated or theorized about some of the best ways to help a drug addict. Some have been successful with a certain number of people while some also failed with a certain number of individuals. What it really boils down to is...more
Whether you are a business person, a struggling actor or even a writer/journalist, you have to get the right timing. You see, timing seems to play such a significant role or function in any kind of success. It is so easy to see how timing is very...more