Have you notice that all successful people are successful because they are work hard for it? It is not because they are lucky. To build a successful business empire you have to face endless problems. Every hour there are successful or failed business deals. Do you think Bill Gates built his Windows Empire overnight? I beg to defer.Let me talk about the famous story of Thomas Edison. His creation of the light bulb was not a magical thing that he...more
When people think of playing a role they usually imagine taking a part in a stage production or starring in a blockbuster movie. For most of us, though, those kind of roles are the stuff of fantasy. But every day, you actually play all kinds of social roles in your relationships with others. A social role is the part played by a person in a given social context, including typical or expected patterns of behavior. For example, as part of a...more
Are you over 40?Good. Then you won't need permission from your parents to read this article. If you are under 40, I give you permission now! I would guess if you are over 40 you have begun to question your life and your work. Good. This is normal and healthy. Perhaps you have also started to question your contributions to society. Perhaps your accomplishments for this period of your life have not reached up to your internal or external expectations. Thats ok. Life tends to get in the way as we are making plans. And, this is the right time to deal with the disparity between where you are and where you expected to be in your life. This is important now so you can change your internal expectations to the one that suit you better at this point of your life. This can be a magical process. Do you experience sometimes that you are no longer young? This can generate an awareness of who you are, what you have done and where you might be going. Its normal from time to time now to sense a recognition of your own mortality as this can drive new healthy change. This is an invaluable time to ask yourself key questions around what is most important and whether your lifestyle aligned to your...more
Many people who come to me tell me I have realized that I need to increase my self-esteem, but I really dont know how. Switching from low to high self-esteem is nothing that you do overnight. There are no magic cures. Even I, as a self-esteem coach, has no magic wand that I can wave over you so that you suddenly start to love yourself. Moving...more
If you have read my book The Self-Esteem Toolbox or read many of my articles, you will have seen the vast number of self-esteem raising tools that I throw out at people. You might start to wonder if I actually use these tools myself on a daily basis. Do I walk the talk? Yes and no. I dont try to rediscover who I am every single day. I probably sit...more
If I asked you "what are you good at?", what would you reply? Many people feel really embarrassed about talking about their own strengths even though they deep inside feel like there are some things that they are good at. They worry that others may think that they are boosting if they talk about their strengths, or they worry that others may disagree and think that they instead are really bad at doing what they consider themselves good at. Other people wish they had something to feel proud of but they honestly cannot think of a single thing that they are good at. Its difficult to feel like a worthy person if you dont think that there is much that you are good at. In other words, it is difficult to have self-esteem without self-confidence. (Self-esteem = sense of personal worth, self-confidence = feeling that you can accomplish things.)So lets find out what YOU are good at! - When you were a little kid, what did you love doing?- What kind of compliments do you receive from your friends?- What does your family appreciate you for?- In what situations do you get so excited that you dont notice time passing?- What topics do you love speaking about?- What makes you feel really calm and...more
Its nice to receive positive feedback. We grow a bit taller and we feel good about ourselves. However, receiving negative feedback can be very painful, especially if it comes from someone that we respect and care about or if the feedback is about...more
Is there somebody in your life that you would like to help by raising their self-esteem? A teenager? Your husband or wife? A friend? Helping them to raise their self-esteem is the greatest gift you can give them. The way in which you can help others...more
I love receiving compliments! It makes me feel like a friendly, competent, loving person. Strangely enough, not all people enjoy receiving compliments. Are you one of those people who get embarrassed and immediately respond with something like oh no,...more
When I woke up yesterday morning I was first thinking Today is going to be a very busy day. I will not have time to do any self-esteem exercises. Then I realized what a stupid thought that was! Of course I can do self-esteem exercises no matter what...more
I feel pretty good about myself, why should care about raising my self-esteem? Self-esteem is nothing that you build up to a certain level and then stay there for the rest of your life. Self-esteem is not static. People who previously had a positive...more
Consider this story:One evening sitting around the fire, the grandson of an old and wise Cherokee chief asked his grandfather, "Why is life so unhappy Grandad?" The wise old chief thought for a moment, and then asked, "Can you hear the wolves that...more