Success: Are You Sabotaging Yourself?
Of course you want to be successful as a mom
, as an entrepreneur, and as a person, for that matter. But did you realize that you might be doing things right now that are sabotaging your success?
And because you've chosen to be an entrepreneur, I know that being successful in your business is important to you for a myriad of reasons: to create financial security to truly help people to afford a particular lifestyle to leave a legacy to provide for your family to transform people's lives just to name a few.
But without realizing it, you may be practicing certain behaviors that hold you back from "playing fully" in your career. In other words, you may be "hiding out," rather than showing up as the passionate and powerful woman that you are.
These types of self-sabotage are often subtle and even unconscious. One of my jobs as a business coach is to catch these instances where my clients are "getting in their own way," and to help them release these behaviors. Once they do, they can really show up for their clients, believe in themselves, and take consistent, powerful action that leads to a thriving and lucrative business.
See if you recognize doing any of these sabotaging behaviors:
You over-give or over-deliver: When you charge too little for your services, or give much more time to your clients than they are compensating you for (like going well past the allotted time for your particular service) you may think you are being "generous", but you are actually devaluing your services for your clients. Not to mention being a poor model of time management and healthy boundaries. Instead, be sure that your fees are appropriate and competitive for what you do, and be sure to deliver 100% on what has been promised, but no more.
You minimize your accomplishments: This happens when you discount the "wins" you are experiencing, by saying it's "no big deal" or immediately pointing out any downside or other shortcoming. This is another way of devaluing your successes. And if you don't value them, no one else will either! You don't have to be obnoxiously boastful, but you can be proud of every achievement, no matter how small, and acknowledge yourself and your successes when speaking with others. Make a conscious intention to inspire others and they will find your success quite motivating!
You stay stuck in indecision: This shows up when you have a decision to make, and you hem and haw, fret endlessly about which is the best choice, and get absolutely nowhere. I'll tell you one thing, the worst decision is to not make a decision at all! I guarantee you that it is better to make a powerful decision and begin taking forward action whatever the decision is than to stay stuck in inertia. And if you pursue the path of that decision and then find that there's a better choice, you can always course-correct! But you'll be further along than had you not taken action.
You give your power away: This occurs when you allow other people's opinions or reactions to you drive your choices. You must not let this happen! Only you can make the decisions and take the actions that you feel are the best for you. It is fine (and advisable) to take into account guidance from mentors and those wiser than we are, but basing your actions on what other people may say or think only holds you back and keeps you completely disempowered. I used to have a mentor who said, "what other people think of me is none of my business," and I've come to love that phrase. Stay true to who you are!
So those are the "Pesky Four" and I tell all my clients to watch out for these instances of unintentional self-sabotage, as these habits negatively influence our OWN clients' beliefs and opinions of us! But with practice, I guarantee you can lick em, and instead embrace the powerful, talented, deserving, and unique entrepreneur that you are!
Success: Are You Sabotaging Yourself?
By: Barb Wade, M.A.
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